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I’ve talked to thousands of people about what is not working in love and intimacy. Yet, they always seem to think they are the only one. 

Everyone comes at a point in their lives where something is not working when it comes to intimacy. 

Does that surprise you? 

To me, it is not surprising at all. This...

Are you at this place where things are... ok. You do your daily to do’s, you go to work, maybe you meet your partner and it is ‘nice’. Things are ‘fine’...

What happens in the bedroom is ok but probably it has lost it’s passion after a certain period of time. Or maybe you are single and are not inte...

The stories about what happens in the bedroom and what it ‘should’ look like are messing with your pleasure. There are so many harmful and limiting beliefs out there on this topic. 

What does this look like? I will give you some examples. 

Being goal-oriented is a big one. Are you clouded by the urgen...

This is one of the great tricks to feeling fulfilled in the bedroom. It’s probably not what you think because it’s quite counterintuitive. 

What I have seen over and over again is that if you're always trying to make it amazing and you can't let it be average or bad, you'll never get the heights of t...

Our ego likes to say: no thank you I don’t need to DO anything to ‘learn’ about intimacy. But let’s be honest about this..

We grow up in a society where we pretty much get brainwashed on this topic.

The fact that we do not talk openly about this topic should give you a clue. 

We have to realize how our...

I always had this knowing.. that our outer world is a reflection of our internal word, it’s science. A big aha moment came to me when I deeply understood the role of our sexual energy in all of this. 

This HUGE aha moment came when I saw this into action and deeply understood how it actually works. T...

What if you feel confident and skillful in your career but in your relationship you feel like a different person? The power and confidence you feel at work all of a sudden feels very far away. 

I hear this from men all the time. 

It’s not surprising because nobody ever teaches us how to navigate intim...

Often brilliant minds can have a hard time thriving in intimacy. This is because mind-blowing intimacy does not come from the mind. 

This is not something that we can figure out from only a mental level.

It’s a way of being that is embodied. 
From the body and not from the mind. 

This is not about logic...

If you are serious about high performance and being the best version of yourself you can be, you cannot leave what happens in the bedroom out of the picture. Why? It’s not what you think...

This is a very intimate conversation and it’s an area of our life where there is incredible untapped potential....

It doesn't matter what exactly you DO in the bedroom. It matters how you ARE. What do I mean by that?

Most of the resources you find for men around intimacy and pleasure are about how to please a woman.

It stays on the surface level. 

And sure, that’s important to some degree but this on itself can kee...

Everyone comes to the point in their lives where something is not working when it comes to love and intimacy. 

I have never met a person who did not have that experience in one way or another. Usually in a significant way. 

And I have talked to thousands of people on this topic. 

Does that surprise you...

About 12 years ago I knew 2 things: A painful one, that I am totally disconnected from feeling pleasure.

But I also knew that I would do anything to feel connected to my body and experience this deep intimacy that my friends were talking about.

Sometimes I would think that there was something wrong wi...