It Doesn't Matter What You Do In The Bedroom. It Matters How You ARE
May 11, 2022
It doesn't matter what exactly you DO in the bedroom. It matters how you ARE. What do I mean by that?
Most of the resources you find for men around intimacy and pleasure are about how to please a woman.
It stays on the surface level.
And sure, that’s important to some degree but this on itself can keep you really stuck in your head and won’t allow you to truly experience the deeper intimacy and expanded states you really want to access it.
The real magic is in doing the inner work. This is what will truly make a difference. It’s all about embodiment, how you feel in your own body and how you carry yourself.
When you have a deep level of comfort and confidence in who you are in the bedroom, this is felt.
And when you are caught up in your head, when there is inner judgement, shame, pressure to perform, insecurities.. this is felt too.
If you recognize yourself in this, know that there is nothing wrong with you.
It’s important to realize that there is such heavy social conditioning around expressing our pleasure.
What is this conditioning all about?
Conditioning is any belief a system that is running inside of you that is not in alignment with who you truly are, that is not authentic to you.
Very often we don’t even realize the degree to which we are
affected by these layers of conditioning.
For me, that on itself was the biggest and most difficult thing to realize.
And there is so much power in releasing those layers.
Recovering a core power that you’ve always had. It’s always
been within you but it often gets lost by layers of society.
Which is all about trusting and following our own impulses,
being deeply connected with our bodies, not being in our minds, learning to be present.
And this is what truly makes a good lover.
Let me know if you can relate to this.
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