What If You Feel Confident In Your Career But Not In Your Relationship?

What if you feel confident and skillful in your career but in your relationship you feel like a different person? The power and confidence you feel at work all of a sudden feels very far away. 

I hear this from men all the time. 

It’s not surprising because nobody ever teaches us how to navigate intimacy and love. There is no university degree in how to keep the passion alive in a long term relationship. 

And in reality, many men give their power away in relationships without even realizing it. 

When your love life at home is not thriving, it ripples through all areas of life. It’s impossible not to because it is at the core of who you are. It affects how you feel about yourself, how you wake up in the morning, how you feel in your body, the quality of creative ideas you have, your energy levels, and the list goes on.

There is a reason why famous genius people have had a fulfilling intimate life and have often referred to their loved one as a muse and inspiration for the impact they have made in the world. 

Just to mention a few: William Shakespeare, Nicola Tesla, George Washington and Abraham Lincoln. 

Having a busy lifestyle, not having much free time and experiencing stress are real factors that cannot be denied. And to be very real with you here, it is also not an excuse. 
 
Usually there are many other dynamics underneath the stress and the busy lifestyles that cause couples to not feel as connected anymore and to lose that deep, meaningful intimacy. 

To rebuild a fulfilling intimate life, it doesn’t take that much time. It just requires a willingness to show up with each other and have a roadmap to see how this intimacy can come back. 

If it has been there in the beginning of the relationship, it’s still there. It’s just covered up by different pieces that have gotten in the way. 

And when you learn how to release these… there will be a new foundation of connection and intimacy between the two of you, even when life gets busy and stressful. 

I hope this post inspires you to know that you can bring back that spark even if it feels very far away. 

Just before writing this post I had a call with a client of mine who had not been intimate with his wife for 5 years and they feel like they are back in the honeymoon phase now. 

If you’d ask me, feeling fulfilled in your intimate life is like being plugged in to the fuel of life. Again and again I see people getting their mojo and zest for life back when they address this part of their life. 

I’d love to hear what reading this post brings up in you, whether you are in a long term relationship or not.