Do You Feel Less Confident In Intimacy Than You Do In Work?

“I feel confident and skillful in my professional life but in relationships I feel like a different person”. I hear this all the time. In reality, a lot of men give their power away in relationships without even realizing it. The passion has faded, there is something in the way of deeper intimacy and they do not feel in their full power and fulfillment. 

When a man is cut off from the full expression of his life force energy, there’s consequences. He does not feel connected to his inner power and confidence. When the energy does not move the way it wants to, it creates blocks as well as a lack of focus, clarity and presence. I see this all the time. 

It’s not surprising because nobody ever teaches us how to navigate intimacy and love. There is no education or university degrees on how to keep the passion alive in a long term relationship. Often the power and confidence you feel at work all of a sudden can feel very far away.  

I’m very aware of the many factors in life that can make this topic challenging. There’s the stress of life, which can be incredibly busy, maybe your partner has lost her desire and often once there are babies or children in the mix it changes the dynamic even more. And to be very real with you here, it is also not an excuse to let this part of your life just go by. 

Usually there are many other dynamics underneath the stress and the busy lifestyles that cause couples to not feel as connected anymore and to lose that deep, meaningful intimacy. 

To rebuild a fulfilling intimate life, it doesn’t take that much time. It just requires a willingness to show up and have a roadmap to see how this intimacy can come back. 

If the passion has been there in the beginning of the relationship, it’s still there. It’s just covered up by different pieces that have gotten in the way. And if there is a foundation of love, it’s worth exploring what has gotten in the way. 

It requires you to get on the same page again with your partner as well as a deep understanding of how female desire actually works. It requires a new embodiment within yourself as a man that prevents her from shutting down and pushing away. It’s so empowering to know how to step into this as a man, and it does not require the willingness and participation from your partner. There’s a lot you can do that starts within yourself. 

When you learn how to release what has gotten in the way there will be a new foundation of connection and intimacy between the two of you, even when life gets busy and stressful. 

If you’d ask me, feeling fulfilled in your intimate life is like being plugged in to the fuel of life. I see people who live busy, stressful lifestyles and when their intimate lives are working, it all becomes so much easier to navigate. 

I’d love to hear what reading this post brings up in you, whether you are in a long term relationship or not.